Our Voice: Thanks for things that last and for things that change

February 19, 2014 

We all have to adapt to change. Even things that stay the same, such as a marriage. Both people are constantly adapting to each other and, we hope, falling in love all over again.

Things can't stay the way they are.

Long-term relationships

Half of our country's marriages end in divorce. So it's especially impressive when a couple can hold it together for several decades.

On Valentines Day, two couples who have passed their 60th anniversaries were featured in the Tri-City Herald. A few weeks back, a Mid-Columbia couple was featured in Redbook magazine in celebration of their 50th anniversary.

We're sure there are many more enduring marriages.

For people to stay together for a long time, there has to be more than love. There has to be forgiveness and fun, communication and compassion. There is an art in making a marriage last.

We're thankful for the examples of people who put the necessary effort into their relationships.

A recent survey in Great Britain showed that marriage is more important for our well being than making a six-figure salary or our religion. It also showed that married couples are happier than co-habitating unmarried couples.

Of course, other factors certainly play into a person's happiness. But marriage shouldn't be discounted.

Congratulations to Ed and Celeste Allen, Jim and Bev Simpkin and Artis and Burt Vaughan -- and to everyone else out there who is trying to make it work, whether you're going on 60 years or six months.

Women wrestlers

There still are people who would prefer that girls not wrestle. Perhaps they should stick with tatting or some yard croquet.

We're not really sure what the reasoning is behind that line of thinking. Perhaps wrestling isn't feminine enough for them.

But after almost two weeks of watching Olympic athletes of both genders excel on the ice and snow, it's pretty hard to make the argument that some sports are for men only -- or for women only.

Andrea Yamamoto was one of the first female high school wrestlers in the Tri-Cities. That was almost 30 years ago. Today she is a respected wrestling coach.

And today there are more girls on the mat -- even though wrestling still is a male-dominated sport.

Traditions can be good. They hold us together as a community. But change also is good. Someone has to be the first one to pioneer those changes.

We're grateful for people who are willing to take the lead.

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